Wayne Forrest | Waking Up a C4 Quadriplegic: My Catalyst to Becoming

"Bang, I made a mistake!"

Those were the words, my guest, Wayne Forrest, described the moment that changed his life forever.

It was a chance happening (or was it?) that Wayne had some teammates out injured from his rugby team, and he filled in to play the game he loved.

One play during that game would have him waking up in a hospital bed five days later to realize he could not only move his legs but he couldn't move his arms or hands. In an instant, Wayne became a statistic and a C4 quadriplegic.

I've always loved under-dog stories - always. It seems the people who have endured the most unfathomable circumstances often find a way a dig deep within themselves and turn a tragedy into gold.

Wayne is now a motivational speaker, coach, and TEDx speaker and has done more in his life while in a wheelchair than many of us who have full use of our limbs.

This is one of those stories I know I will come back to and play again when I doubt myself, feel like a Debbie Downer, or just need to realize how freaking blessed I am.

No matter what you've gone through in your life or are going through, I hope you listen to Wayne's story. He shares three things that helped him get through his "dark night of the soul" and how he's no one special - we are all capable of turning our lives around at any given point. It does, however, come down to deciding to do so; only then will you see yourself becoming - who you were always meant to be.

"Do something that scares you every day." - Wayne Forrest

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Transcript

Victoria Volk 0:00
Hi this is Victoria of theunleashedheart.com and you're listening to grieving voices, a podcast for hurting hearts who desire to be heard. Or anyone who wants to learn how to better support loved ones experiencing loss. As a 30 plus year griever and advanced Grief Recovery methods specialist. I know how badly the conversation around grief needs to change. Through this podcast, I aim to educate gravers and non gravers like spread hope and inspire compassion towards those hurting. Lastly, by providing my heart with yours and this platform, Grievers had the opportunity to share their wisdom and stories of loss and resiliency. How about we talk about grief, like we talked about the weather. Let's get started. Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening, whatever time it is and wherever you're listening from. Thank you for tuning in. And you might be wondering if you've been following my podcast for a while. Why this is not a takeaways and reflections episode this week after last week's AMI Metcalf's episode. And it is because I'm approaching episode 100. And I really wanted that episode to be a takeaways and reflections and just how my schedule when it didn't work out that way. So I am putting Amy's and Wayne's episodes into one takeaways and reflections episode that'll come out next week. And so in the meantime, this week's episode is a treat. I absolutely love my conversation with Wayne. And it's so inspiring even though it's months later that it's going live. I'm just as inspired by him and I can't wait for you to listen. So without further ado, let's get into this week's episode. My guest today is Wayne forest. He is an international transformational speaker and Life Mastery consultant, certified by the brave thinking Institute in LA. He grew up in the community on the east coast of Hawke's Bay, New Zealand, where he farmed for 25 years with 15 of these from a wheelchair. And he now lives more inland with his wife, Kathy on a small block. He has four children and three grandchildren. And he says that his sporting accident in 1995, leaving him a C five quadriplegic was the catalyst for his ongoing journey into personal development, which has given him the incredible life that he loves, and is very grateful for. Thank you so much for being here.

Wayne Forrest 2:41
It's a pleasure, Victoria is an absolute pleasure.

Victoria Volk 2:45
It's my honor to have you I absolutely love connecting with people in this way, one on one and diving deep into grief and hearing the ins and outs of other people's stories of in your case transformation, which I am very excited to share with my listeners and hear more about. And so can you please take us back to that day when your life changed?

Wayne Forrest 3:10
Yes. It was rather a dramatic change. I was grew up in that physical world of farming. Right from an early age I was on on the front of my grandfather's horse, out on the farm, immersing myself into it. And then one day I was told to go to school, which I didn't really think was much chop at all. But school head sport so you know, very physical background. And as I grew up, I immersed myself into those kind of businesses even shearing sheep before my accident and had a couple of businesses going. And I was married and had two beautiful twin daughters of 16 months. And I played rugby for my local club. And we had a few members away and injured that week. And I was a senior member and I played a lot of rugby and making some rip sides that I have kept and before so it wasn't unusual for me to be a leader of the team. And the game was just a typical tough physical game that we have here in New Zealand. It can be very physical, and we've we're losing and with the lovely little move on as a team with the ball and I ended up receiving that ball and took it into contact with two of the opposition. And bang. I made a mistake. I ended up with my head under my shoulder rolling over onto my neck, which dislocated my neck, I couldn't breathe. The pain was absolutely incredible. felt like someone was sticking a hot poker right into my neck. And it took about an hour or more for the emergency helicopter to arrive. And he asked me if I'd had any pain relief, I said, No, he gave me some medicine. And I passed out, I woke up five days later, in a hospital bed, honestly, I thought I was in the middle of a dream. And I couldn't move. And I couldn't move my hands or couldn't move my arms, or my legs. And so I went from physical to not having any movement, physical movement are all so you imagine the shock and being a shy country boy and having to have nurses take me to the toilet, you know, do my toileting and feed me and things like that? It was terrible. And there was shame, there was a lot of emotions going around inside me and a lot of thoughts that were creating. You mentioned fear, and anxiety and all those emotions.

Victoria Volk 6:33
I can't even imagine. I don't know that anyone really can. But do you recall any conscious thoughts or, or like an experience of almost imagine it would be like this out of body? Like you're looking at yourself? And like, like, do you recall that moment in that hour? After until you passed out? Or when you were starting to regain consciousness? Do you recall any aspect of that?

Wayne Forrest 6:59
Differently? That bad dream, you know, like, feeling like you'd wake up in a cold sweat afterwards, with a shock through the system of Ah, shit. I'm having a bad dream in your wake up? Oh, hell, no. It's not a pipe dream. I'm actually in this. And you kind of wanted the wake up, you know, from from this experience and go, Oh, sure. That didn't happen. But it did. And so you hit that kind of feeling. It's quite interesting, because I had a friend staying with me that weekend that I'd met overseas a few years earlier, and his partner, and we were just having a quiet drink that night before. And an accident was shown on TV of a young fella who, out of 26 kids was one of two survivors. And he broke every bone in his body falling off platform overlooking a river out we've got beautiful country, and it was out in the, in the wilderness. And so about 23 Young people died, that are on that platform. And the sham follow was one of the only survivors. Now my friend visited me a couple of weeks later in hospital. And he said, Can you remember the conversation that we had that night? About the sham follow up? And I said no. And he said, Well, you said that you would rather be dead then have every bone in your body broken. And then this happens to the next day. Coincidence, I don't know. But synchronicities. I ended up sharing the room with the same guy. And that thought never occurred to me until he brought it up. It's quite funny. There's something and that's that strives not wants to die. I have that feeling of oh my god, I'd rather be dead. There was life seeking through me once I had my accident. Yes, a few of those thoughts came in later down the track where where, you know, you might have been going through a dark patch or a dark moment and this experience of like, talking months or even years later, and no because it's now 26 years since my accident. So I'm kind of talking about the first five and Not once. In that first few weeks, did that thought come into my mind? It was about survival. It was about getting better. It was about how can I, you know, survive this. So it's really interesting how you know, the conscious mind can say something the day before you have an accident that you'd rather be dead, then totally forget about that. And just concentrate on on survival. Interesting experience to go through.

Victoria Volk 10:36
Have you connected with that man since or did you stay connected with him? I'm just curious of the friend, the man that was in that shared the hospital room with you the gentleman that had that accident?

Wayne Forrest 10:50
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I have. I haven't been in touch the last few years, he ended up with more movement than I did. Which is quite ironic. And I quite often, that's my sense, humor. I laugh about these things. But it's quite interesting how this journey seems to have fight or the synchronicities that are tied into the experience.

Victoria Volk 11:26
I absolutely believe in synchronicities for sure. I imagine with your children being so young, can you speak to that the grief of the family unit moving forward, and when did it feel like it was starting to maybe lift where you felt like you are more in control of your mindset around it?

Wayne Forrest 11:52
Might, that's a big one. The twins, they now have been so young to and being your first children and having twins, you can imagine that I had no choice I had to be a full on dead and being physical. And being on the farm and outdoors, I often took one of them species, one that was a little bit more difficult with me. Anyone who's had twins knows that they have their turns that been difficult, especially when they're little. So I used to take one in particular with me out on the farm and out on jobs. So she spent a lot of time with dad. And then it was a good month, nearly three weeks to a month before she saw me again in that hospital bed because I was so far away from home, I remember her reaction, she saw me in the bed and pack the biggest wobbly, you could and lay down on the floor of the hospital kicking and screaming. And I knew exactly what you wanted me to

Wayne Forrest 13:12
Do, and I know the listeners might be able to see that I've got really emotional because it still hit me right in the guts. Because she wanted me to pick her up and out could wasn't until she left that room with my family. I just broke down really, really hit me hard. And, you know, I know now that that's part of the lesson. It's part of a part of growing me from inside out. But But at that moment, that was gut wrenching. It really hit me home that my life has changed. Because I would pick her up, I would take her away from the situation. I would have, you know, soothed her in that way as a dad. And yeah, I couldn't. And of course, you know, my first marriage, my wife had her own inner demons and you know, me not having that control. I always saw myself as a bit of a white knight on a horse. I know it's a bit egotistical before my accident where I could control control and help people and my wife drank quite heavily. And so, you know, all of a sudden, I couldn't control that anymore physically. And so there was a lot of that feelings of, of hopelessness of, of vulnerability of, to the point where at times, if she'd been drinking, I felt at a fear of my own life, you know, it wasn't always the case. But I had those thoughts. So it took to answer your question, it took probably a good three years to five years for me to start really creating that physical control again, and control of my environment. And of course, in that process, our marriage didn't survive, I knew enough that I wanted to create a strong relationship with and you can imagine nasty separations, she didn't really want to be separated from me, but didn't want to be with me. So I forced their shoes. So it did get a little bit messy, you know, and, sadly, kids got caught in the middle, I knew enough to make sure that I didn't blame her for the separation, and I tried to keep tried to be the ground, and that, that relationship for them. And now, I've got a fantastic relationship, that 28 years old, they're both kids have their own marriage, you know, so, and we're very tight as a family. And as time has gone over, you know, the relationship with my ex wife has healed and, and, and we've created a bridge for them. So we know, so we can work for me is so they can have a life and not worry about mom and dad been in the same room.

Victoria Volk 17:18
That's a beautiful gift to give them. A lot of ego having to be put aside and to work on daily to do that to imagine.

Wayne Forrest 17:29
Why ego no ego, put me in the position of broke my neck or dislocated my neck. Ego, you can imagine coming from that farming, sport, rugby, booed, man, no, drank too much party to hide background. And then having to there was a lot of ego even in my healing, there was a lot of ego. And that's one thing that I've, I've learned just in recent years with my study around, there's spiritual laws and, and principles of transformation, that recognizing that ego and the true us the soul or the love, and us, and I've done a lot of healing inward on that I'm good enough. Because that same paradigm put me in this position that I made that mistake and dislocated my neck. And I believe this no accidents.

Victoria Volk 18:54
What do you feel was the biggest catalyst in your healing, biggest nurturer of your healing? Maybe it was a resource or a person or what was the biggest? I think you know what I'm trying to say?

Wayne Forrest 19:11
That's great question. Really great question. And there was a number of things, because it's been a journey. Right? It was it just didn't just happen. What I look back now and with my knowledge and what I teach and learn, and I practice these principles every day, and I look back now I think it's having a vision, having a vision of what would I love, and I knew I wanted to go back to the farm because that was my first love. So I accidentally created a vision and that helped pull me into the becoming and of course I got better physically as well because I had a clear vision of what I wanted to be able to achieve. When I had my accent, I couldn't move my arms and enhance, like I can now write. And so I worked diligently or hard. In other words, I don't like that word has worked constantly getting stronger in those early days. And because I had a clear vision, things fell into place, like the right people, I lived in the watts or on a dirt road out in the middle of nowhere on the coast, yet one of the people that has passed now, but she came and helped me with getting up and making as a carer and she was a qualified physio, before she got married to a local farmer. And she was brilliant. She, I put down a lot of what I got back in those early years to her, because of her knowledge, her skill level, she kept me going, you know, and the rehab and, and kept me just inching forward. And I believe in that synchronicity, as we're talking about before, that was because I had a clear vision of what I wanted to do. And I achieved that I ended up getting strong enough to drive again, within a couple of years that gave me freedom. It gave me independence, that also came in the ability to get something adapted for the farm. So I could get around the farm and start managing net again. And once I achieved that, all of a sudden, it was like, Wow. I want another call. And of course, be very careful listeners, what you asked for. Because, you know, I asked for something that was gonna challenge me. That was going to make me stretch again, just about the next day, I get a email from someone who had started up a pilot course of doing extreme outdoor activities for people with disabilities. No way. No way. All right. And I was like, Oh, shit, that's scary. Because then we're going to do and sailing, paragliding scuba diving. And I'm like, how the beep beep beep am I gonna do that? I'm a teacher pledge it with no balance. I've got no hands. How am I gonna climb a rope or, or get down a cliff or, you know, be underwater and be able to do these things. And it was perfect. And so I put my name down and in our and I'm a big scaredy cat, or not someone who really looks for danger or for things that are going to scare them. But Dave is aremy. So I did it. And I learned a lot from doing that. I ended up doing water skiing and London here and lake just out of London. I've I've done paragliding I've done scuba diving with the sharks and the Napier aquarium of paragliders off blimmin Cliff, you know, not on my own. But I've experienced all these sounds. Because of putting down that first vision. And if this vision then took me on a road of discovery, and you know, where my road was hitting before.

Wayne Forrest 24:07
We don't know where that would have gone to before my accident. And where I am today. Oh my god, the polarity is so different. No, it's just so hard to describe because it's so different from where I was before my accident where I am today. And I'm more confident, I'm more happier with myself healed that I'm a not enough I'm still working on it. As we know. It takes time. But I have four kids now. I've got three grandchildren, you know, life is good, even from a wheelchair. And I'd so to answer your question that and this is what I teach quite often in workshops and stuff also is the power of having a great vision, and then deciding for that vision, you know, sometimes life gets difficult, it gets really tough. And I had to keep deciding for that vision when it was tough. When I didn't feel like getting out a bit, when I wanted to just hide away from life, really, I had to decide and get up, get out and do what I had to do to help me create that next step into my vision. And the third one is sourcing that support. We're not meant to do it on our own. Quite often our ego tells us that we have to do it on our own. But you know, without that support of that physio that was ended, was my neighbor, or the support of my now wife, that was the girl that came and helped me on the farm. You know, the support of the physios, the doctors, the occupational therapists, all those people, the coaches along the way. So they are three secrets, or three main secrets, I believe, is that clear vision of what you would love decision and creating that support system, finding and sourcing people that have already done it, or have the knowledge to help you achieve. Yes, sometimes you have to pay for that. But maybe it's well worth every cent.

Victoria Volk 26:51
I love that. That is wonderful advice for anything that people are struggling with. And there's tips there there's advice, there's ways that others supported you. You allow yourself to be supported. I think that's often hard for people to is to allow themselves to be supported. Like to feel like you were worthy enough worthy of someone's time and energy and effort putting being put into you. Now it takes a lot of inner work, I think to even get to that point to I remember there's one podcast interview I did with someone a Griever. And she said something and I I've never forgotten it. She said, when you lay you decay, and you chose not to decay and get up every day, even when it was hard. And I imagine you did have days where you did just lay and you did have your pity party and feel down on yourself. And I mean, obviously it's you're gonna have days like that, right?

Wayne Forrest 27:51
Oh, totally. No, I was lucky. I had a family that was like, you know, they wouldn't allow that to happen. They would like just hurry up and get out of bed. Come on. Get on with it. Typical farming folk, you know. Yeah, my father came up and it was just about snowing outside. And it comes in for a cup of coffee a cup of coffee, which he did it most mornings. And I it turns around to me this is whatever you move the ship yet. I'm like, dead. It's bloody cold outside. But I know moving. Yeah. I'm gonna go once I warm up, okay. It was just like, come on. They they never saw me any different. You know what I mean? It was like, Don't give me that crap that you're in a wheelchair. Get out there and bloody dirt. We're. So I grew up in that kind of attitude. And I think that helped. Helps in those dark days, because I knew I wasn't gonna get any sympathy that you know, it was like, Come on, get out a bit. Or get moving, you know? So I forced myself to get out of bed before I was told if that makes sense.

Victoria Volk 29:16
I think what they gave you was love because they didn't enable you to give up on yourself. Right?

Wayne Forrest 29:25
Yeah. Right from an early age right from day dot you know from Ben. young fella was Come on. You got this. All right. Get out. Go and do it. That's right, that scab off you know. And

Victoria Volk 29:44
It served you Yeah, because look at all the adventures and different things you've probably just listening to you you've had more like adventurous fun experiences of you know, the parasailing and all of that stuff. I've never done any Have that you've done more? Even in a wheelchair than I'm I have as an able bodied person like I have fully functioning limbs in, what am I doing here? Right?

Wayne Forrest 30:13
As a quote that I actually found early on. And I can't remember who said it, but it was like, do something that scares you every day. And no, because we've got this fear system that is ancient. It stems back to the caveman days when there was saber toothed Tigers that were about to pounce on us. So we had to be ready to run. And we call this the flight fright. Freeze syndrome, right? And we still have that same system, and our bodies, but we don't have the saber toothed Tiger now, instead, we've got what does the neighbors say about us all? What does my family say? Or, you know, that is our fear system? Or what is that person in the office saying about me or whatever? Yeah, the ego of that, right? That's our survival now is worried about what everyone else is, is thinking about us. And that fear isn't often real. And we've learned in society these days are believed to, to live in their fear of what's coming on time. And, you know, we've seen it in the media, we seen it in advertising. They know how our brain works. So that's shoveling a whole lot of stress and fear, to get us to do what we need to do for society and their plan. Right. And we get manipulated by this idea of how our brain works through society. So, you know, we can look at something that seems to be Geary, and know that as a truth, is my life really in danger in this moment? If it's not really in danger, then why can I step into it? And as we know, you know, going through a trauma like this, we're talking about it earlier. This here, heaps of fear of the unknown. And that's what all that's what it is, it's just fear of the unknown, because we haven't experienced it before. And I love I think there's a video of Will Smith jumping out of a plane and how, you know, he talked himself, just about out of that all night in a cold sweat, and then right to the next day, right up until he was about jump out. And, you know, he wanted to hang on, and when it didn't want to do it, but he pushed himself through it. And as soon as he left that, that plane, he was calm, the fear gone. Because he was in the experience, and that's when he should have had the fear because he was falling towards the earth, right. But the fear gone. So what does that tell us about our brain and how it works, you know, we allow our dreams to pass us by, because we're scared of the unknown, of stepping into their dream, yes. Our dark nights or breaking my neck or, or whatever you're going through that, that disease that you've got, or that whatever, you know, we have to face up to them. We have to, we can't, can't hope they're gonna go away. We have to actually look at it. But we can also create a real clear vision of what we would love out of this experience. And start stepping into there with that fear.

Victoria Volk 34:32
And let me ask you about that vision. Because did you envision yourself doing the work that you're doing today? Because I seriously just like, we're done folks. Like, here's Wayne forest, his TED talk. I mean, this is very inspirational to me. You're very inspirational. I just feel it just out of your just through the screen. I can just feel your voice, the passion. I imagine it wasn't always that way. And so What was the vision? Is it even better than you imagined?

Wayne Forrest 35:05
Maisie my own kind of brilliant life from a wheelchair. How does that work? And I, when I have my accident, I thought my life was over. Right? Because the one I knew up until that point was over, physically, you know, and so cracky How do I ask that question? It's a great question. The first dream was to go back to their physical life, have fun, but once I achieved that, and you have to remember that farming was might love it was really, it still is I love farming. But once I achieved it, it was the journey of who I become, that created a new vision. And then, you know, I didn't I wasn't really clear like I am today. But that's come with the journey and understanding that if I get really clear on what I would love, then wow. Those synchronicities when you start to get in alignment with who's that is that your becoming? There's a Hanton that for your listeners if they listen to that piece real Clifford. It's who we become. We have to be who we become now, even though we haven't become it. But when we do, our my golly, gosh, those synchronicities, really start to fall into place. And you end up having conversations like this one, that is just so bloody good. And that is the synchronicity I've been of just enjoying the journey and learning on the way by having a clear vision. Because once you achieve that vision, or that dream is always something even greater still, never settle. Never Settle.

Victoria Volk 37:06
I'm going to ask you a question. And I think anyone listening can apply it to them voice like, especially in grief that you know, there's the event, this certain event, and I want my listeners if you're listening to this think of an event in your life where that changed you significantly. Now I want to ask you Wayne, what would you say to version 1.0? Wayne 1.0. Knowing what you know now and I want my listeners to think of what what they would like to say to themselves because maybe this maybe an incident just took place for someone maybe they just had a loss that's totally flipped their lives upside down. What do you want to say to yourself about your future? If you're listening to this, and I want to ask you Wayne, what would you say to yourself? The Wayne version 1.0 being the version you are now today?

Wayne Forrest 38:12
it's a beautiful question. And what comes to me is with a love loving heart and love I would give myself a huge hug and say you've gotten this you've gotten this each one of us has the same Bala that's breathing us. I don't care what you think. Or what you're feeling. I know you've got this.

Victoria Volk 39:00
Think this is the most I've ever cried wipe tears away during a podcast interview. Oh says so much about your heart. Thank you so much for sharing. What has your grief taught you?

Wayne Forrest 39:19
To love myself more that grief is only there because there's a part of you as her no one else has hurt you. It's it's it comes from a deep, painful scar. Have a young mind while young experience no other way It's, we're talking about the child in us. Their pain comes from an experience that we've had. And if you give that part of yourself more love you will start to heal that grief.

Victoria Volk 40:25
Do you still have bad days?

Wayne Forrest 40:28
Oh, I've totally man, I'm human. You know, I made a joke of that for the talk that I did a couple of days ago. You know, raise your hand. If you've had a challenge in life. If you've had a bad day in life, or half the crowd go put their hand up and ask them, Are you human? Raise your hand. Yeah, I knew there was a few that weren't from this world, right? A few human going to have some bad days, as part of it. It's not meant to be clean. Clinical, it's meant to be messy, is meant to be messy. It's, you know, where we're all meant to do it messy. That's the way we learn. Now, we're all meant to fail. It's as part of the process, they learn a lot from failure, you don't learn a lot from success. As the failures you ask anybody that's had incredible success in life. They've learned from their failures. And they've taken it on and keep failing until they've got it. Right. And it's the same with trauma. It's kind of be missing. Just step into it. Step into their miss, face up to it. Keep stepping into that unknown. keep stepping into it, because you've got a vision of heal, heal, that should be your vision of healing. What would that look like? What would that love look like for you? Create that strong, powerful vision and step into the unknown? Do it messy, do it ugly? Do it with tears. Do it with laughter do it with crying with yelling, do it with if you but do it.

Victoria Volk 42:41
So what does your work look like today?

Wayne Forrest 42:44
My this is what I teach. I love it. There's nothing better than helping people heal and connect to their true self. I believe that each one of us is born genius. Each one of us has a skill sets something to give to this experience. And what I do is I help people get in touch in alignment with that, and start loving and to that and create a journey of a life that they can look back on and go. God I love my life. God, thank God for this journey.

Victoria Volk 43:30
Bless it right, bless ya. What gives you the most joy and hope for your future?

Wayne Forrest 43:41
Understanding now and that I have this incredible potential, and possibility I've got an incredible potential. Just like each age. So walking this earth, I've got incredible potential. That excites me, because my there's a possibility of any thing could happen.

Victoria Volk 44:18
What is your vision look like now for the future? Do you want to share a goal of yours?

Wayne Forrest 44:26
Yeah yeah. What's the latest one was the TEDx talk. And that was last year. This goal is to speak my truth to more people. And I and I don't mind sharing this, but I want to speak to 1000s of people at one time, and I want people to to hear the message of my truth of that. You all have that same potential and possibility of having lives that you love. So I want to spread that message as big and wide as far and I believe it's one that's needed in this very crazy environment of fear leading us. I want people to, to create lives, they love, because I think that will help humanity go in a direction that we all want.

Victoria Volk 45:34
Never question for you. And I believe I already know the answer. But I want to hear how you answer it. If I had a magic wand, and I can reverse that day, and you would be that day would have happened like any other day, would you want me to reverse that day to change what happened?

Wayne Forrest 45:57
The ego does. With the level of awareness I have now I know that it's even possible today for me to create

Wayne Forrest 46:12
That possibility, right? We know and quantum physics is possible. So don't answer your question. I wouldn't want to give up what I've learned. Because I know that now it's possible that I can actually have have that miracle, or have that have that magic wand, as you said,

Victoria Volk 46:39
Oh, look at me putting limitations on you. Right. Right. Exactly. Yeah, that's, that's me asking you does, right?

Wayne Forrest 46:49
Yeah, but it's also give me the witness? Well, no, actually, I don't need that limitation, you know. So you can't put any limitation on me. Right. So so it's not about the question or that limitation? Because none of us have, we're only limited by the way we think. And I know there's more in that. And there's probably a whole new podcast for that that subject. But I know that I have that awareness of that consciousness now, then that I'm only limited by the possibility that I think. So if I expand that thinking, and that possibility, then there's so much more potential.

Victoria Volk 47:40
I just want to give people this idea to this thought to think about this. You don't have to have a tragic accident, right? To, to have a life that you love to have become the best version of yourself to step into fear and to step into failure and to do all the things and accomplish all the things that you've have. Because of that accident. That didn't have to happen for you to be who you are today. But it did. And rather than laying and decaying, you've gotten up and transformed your life, despite of it. But yeah, so what are your closing thoughts on that?

Wayne Forrest 48:30
Well, I think that's beautiful. The Divide? No, take on what you've heard today, and love it. And to do that my closing thoughts would be look for the magic in life, you know, stay curious question every belief, because our belief system is what is limiting us. And our potential belief is a crazy thing that separates as well. So, you know, question, any belief, because if you question your beliefs, you're going to find your truth.

Victoria Volk 49:12
Do you have any resource that you could share leave people with today?

Wayne Forrest 49:18
Well, I've got I've got a Facebook group, a private group that I've created just recently, and I've got a few challenges happening in that. I've got one coming out. But that depends when this is aired, but you can always join that it's called Turning disability into a life of possibility and reach out on Facebook. When first Instagram went first in Zed. And look, you know, on most I, I've been growing my platforms, but I'm around

Victoria Volk 49:55
In the shownotes. I'll have all your links. But I do want to mention, do you still have the resource on Your website the dream life blueprint?

Wayne Forrest 50:02
Yes, I do. That's also another result. Another one, it's a 15 minute recording, where I recommend, you know, just couple of times a day, morning and night. It's a fantastic. It's a beautiful little, if you like my voice, well, you know, it's meditation of sorts, but it's got the three elements. And there's the vision, and that forgiveness, and that decision.

Victoria Volk 50:32
I love it. Anything else you would like to share?

Wayne Forrest 50:36
My night? I think we've, we've given so much, but just know that you have genius in you. And step into the unknown.

Victoria Volk 50:53
I love it. Thank you so much for your time today. You've inspired me, You've left me better than I was before I sat in this chair. So thank you. And remember, when you unleash your heart, you unleash your life. Much love. From my heart to yours. Thank you for listening. If you liked this episode, please share it because sharing is caring. And until next time, give and share compassion by being hurt with yours. And if you're hurting know that what you're feeling is normal and natural. Much love my friend.